Originally Posted by Chris Britton
Kody, I would quite happyily tell you the things i want changed, but at the end of the day Danny does not care and I seriously doubt he or anyone would listen, the only interest he showed was when he punished me for defending a member, then acted all paranoid by calling it a betrayal. Would there be any point listing proposed changes?
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Absolutely there would be a point, because I absolutely care. You've known me for years, Chris, and I find it not only hurtful but kind of offensive to assume you think I'm an unfeeling jerk who doesn't care about others. That's simply not the case, and I would expect you to know that better than most.
Originally Posted by Kody
I think Danny does care, though and would listen. He's not punishing you for defending a member, but for re-opening a thread he had closed. This is akin to doing something your boss just told you not to to.
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Absolutely spot-on.
Originally Posted by Kody
I still insist people are way to wound up about this right now. I've been in my fair share of 'net arguments', or just arguments between people in general. I've even worked as a counselor before. In situations like this it's usually the best course for people to chill out, then talk with each other one on one.
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Entirely agreed here. I think the best thing would be for the people involved to step back and chill out, as Kody says. Then return and talk sensibly when your judgment is not clouded by such harsh negative emotions.
Originally Posted by Chris Britton
I could talk to Danny one on one, but so far i have the distinct impression he does not care, he considered what I did a betrayal, and if thats the case i probably did betray him, because it was the right thing to do.
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I'm sorry, but that's simply not how things work. I picked you to serve as a staff member here because I trusted you. What you did blatantly violated that trust. Think about that for a moment. I don't care what you think is right or wrong; there is a chain of command here, and if you have a problem with my actions or behavior, you bring it to me directly. You never
ever go behind my back and implement something without having me on board. That's not only a betrayal, but as Kody says, is disrespectful.
Originally Posted by Chris Britton
He was quite happy to let picking on a member continue, and take part in it himself, I don't trust him and I have no faith in his management of the forums. The fact he thinks himself to be perfect, beyond criticism and that whatever he does is right makes this place sound like a dictatorship.
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Just because I have a sense of humor and a desire to enjoy myself on my own web site does not mean I have no management abilities. If that were the case, I should think you would find yourself on a different web site after four years here. I am certainly far from perfect and very easy to criticize, and I make no claims to the contrary (and never have). Although I do have to point out that this most certainly
is a dictatorship. There's nothing wrong with a dictatorship by definition -- it just means one person has total power, and on my web site, people have to play by my rules. That's not unreasonable. It's
my name dot com for crying out loud.
Originally Posted by Chris Britton
I say again that under no circumstance should we have to resort to bullying because someone won't listen, we can be better then that, there is another better way.
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Of course there is, but this is the internet. It can be fun sometimes. There are people that just don't fit in, and if that's the case, then we can poke fun at them if we want to. Like RV said, it's not our job to change to suit every member who walks through the front door, and it's not our decision who decides to spend their time here and why. I once had a bad experience on another forum, where one of my Doctor Who themes was posted without credit. I registered an account and claimed ownership of the theme, and I was berated and insulted and called a liar for trying to take credit for what was mine. So you know what I did? Rather than pushing the issue further, I left that site and never returned. It wasn't hard, either. I was bullied, so I walked away immediately. If this is really that much of a problem for James P. or anyone else, then they would (or at the very least should) do exactly the same thing.
Originally Posted by Chris Britton
I stand by decision to leave unless things will change, but i won't say what until I know he is prepared to listen and take into consideration whats happened, the way something should be done.
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I'm prepared to listen to everything you have to say. I readily admit that I am not perfect and neither are these forums, but I still believe that you are all overreacting to something that you shouldn't be. Do what Kody says and leave for a few days if you think it would help. Cool down. We'll be here when you get back.